This cracks me up: whenever I mention to some body whoвЂ™s maybe not polyamorous they often say something like, вЂњWow, donвЂ™t you have a very small dating pool that I am poly? Is not it difficult to get relationship partners?вЂќ
NOTE: this is certainly component 2 of a post where we explore some great benefits of the solamente poly life вЂ” mostly concentrating on polyamory in this component. In role 1 I address some great benefits of being solamente and solitary.
It is correct that serial (and ostensible, as opposed to real) monogamy may be the social norm together with many popular relationship option.
therefore theoretically it is numerically much easier to find possible lovers who would like (or at the very least whom claim to wish) a monogamous relationship. Or even to find people enthusiastic about strictly sex that is no-emotional-connection an option that individually departs me personally cool. And damn little in between.
Into the world that is real good relationships arenвЂ™t a figures game. Also, psychological and real requirements (i.e., love and attraction) have not been one-size-fits-all. Plus, unless youвЂ™re a Zen monk, every adultвЂ™s life is вЂњcomplicated.вЂќ Consequently, IвЂ™ve discovered that attempting to play combined with norm that is social in which the standard expectation is the fact that youвЂ™re either looking for a monogamous partner if not strictly a вЂњplayerвЂќ вЂ” drastically limits my choices for having good relationships.
We strongly choose, and profoundly enjoy, linking with individuals according to exactly just what seems right and healthy, and on focusing on how our relationship choices and current commitments might beвЂ” that is complementary than the way I (or they) think a relationship вЂњshouldвЂќ unfold. Continue reading Solo Poly WhatвЂ™s wonderful about being polyamorous, solamente and solitary, part 2